Self-Defeating Behaviors (02:18)

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Learn the ways in which self-defeating behaviors manifest themselves in individuals' lives. See several vignettes in which people display self-defeating behaviors.

Origins of Self-Defeating Behaviors (03:03)

The first step in overcoming self-defeating behaviors is to understand where they come from. Most stem from disturbed emotions or feelings. Learn about the "vicious circle of self-defeat" in which disturbed feelings lead to self-defeating behaviors, which lead to self-defeating consequences.

How Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) Works (03:23)

Learn the definition of REBT. Our thoughts and beliefs about an event or situation trigger our feelings. To change the feelings, we must challenge our beliefs to discover where the disturbed thoughts come from and then replace them with appropriate feelings.

Negative Belief Systems (04:36)

Most disturbed feelings stem from negative belief systems. Learn about "shoulds and awfulizing." See examples of people operating from negative belief systems.

Self-Devaluation (01:59)

Learn about and see examples of self-devaluation. This belief and other negative beliefs are often associated with depression and other mental health issues.

Shame (03:20)

The shameful person has an underlying feeling of being inadequate, incompetent, or worthless. A vignette shows a teacher who suffers from shame. She is planning a party for her class. When a fellow teacher drops in, she doubts herself, even though he reassures her that her idea is great.

Importance of Overcoming Shame (06:07)

When a person feels shame, his or her thoughts and actions tend to be self-defeating. A feeling of shame generally prevents people from experiencing emotional maturity and happiness. Challenging and disputing disturbed messages is how we overcome shame.

Credits: Understanding Shame: Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (00:13)

Credits: Understanding Shame: Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy