Self-Defeating Behaviors (02:19)

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Learn the ways in which self-defeating behaviors manifest themselves in individuals' lives. See several vignettes in which people display self-defeating behaviors.

Origins of Self-Defeating Behaviors (03:02)

The first step in overcoming self-defeating behaviors is to understand where they come from. Most stem from disturbed emotions or feelings. Learn about the "vicious circle of self-defeat" in which disturbed feelings lead to self-defeating behaviors, which lead to self-defeating consequences.

How Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) Works (03:21)

Learn the definition of REBT. Our thoughts and beliefs about an event or situation trigger our feelings. To change the feelings, we must challenge our beliefs to discover where the disturbed thoughts come from and then replace them with appropriate feelings.

Negative Belief Systems (04:36)

Most disturbed feelings stem from negative belief systems. Learn about "shoulds and awfulizing." See examples of people operating from negative belief systems.

Self-Devaluation (01:59)

Learn about and see examples of self-devaluation. This belief and other negative beliefs are often associated with depression and other mental health issues.

Grief (03:30)

An employer tells an employee urges to talk to a counselor about his divorce, as it seems to be affecting his work. Grief is a natural process that follows a loss. Coping mechanisms are part of the grief process.

Counseling Session (03:01)

An employee experiencing grief over his divorce has a session with a therapist, who helps him manage his grief process. He must let himself-experience the pain of grief before he can move forward. With the help of the therapist, he identifies his primary loss.

Primary and Secondary Losses (04:50)

Loss occurs in all areas of our lives: physical, spiritual, relationship, emotional, recreational, financial and property losses, and more. In his counseling session Aaron identifies his secondary losses.

How to Cope with Upsetting Feelings (01:09)

RET or Rational Emotive Therapy is a self-help system that helps people cope with upsetting feelings by examining the underlying thoughts and beliefs that caused the feelings. Beliefs strongly influence feelings and behavior. One can learn to replace negative feelings with positive ones.

Importance of Changing Thoughts (04:45)

In his third counseling session, Aaron learns that he can choose negative self-talk, or he can change those negative thoughts to more positive ones, and as a result, he will feel better. Aaron examines his negative self-talk and learns that he can challenge self-defeating thoughts.

Power of Process (01:23)

Rational Emotive Therapy is powerful because it can be done on one's own. It can help people change their beliefs and thoughts in order to avoid some of the upsetting feelings that hinder progress in the grief process.

Credits: Understanding Grief: Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (00:13)

Credits: Understanding Grief: Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy