Romance in Modern Times (09:00)
John Donvan considers the impact of dating apps and introduces "Modern Love" Editor Daniel Jones; technology has a significant impact on relationships. Jones discusses being open to "love cons," the stigma of online romance, and relationship fantasies.
Heart vs. Brain Behavior (04:58)
Jones discusses the fear of dating and taking risks; technology allows people not to practice vulnerability. People constantly question their right to happiness; being open leads to a chance at a happy life.
Feeling "In Love" (03:36)
Jones reflects on his love life and appreciation for kindness and generosity over the long-term. Donvan discusses love connections made while attending an Intelligence Squared debate.
"Love Illuminated: Exploring Life's Most Mystifying Subject" (03:36)
Jones discusses a Penn State study claiming men are three times more likely to declare themselves in love before sex and the accidental "I love you."
Debate "Housekeeping" (04:59)
Donvan introduces the four debate panelists and asks each a question relating to the debate on dating apps killing romance. Topics include sociology, creative thinking, chemistry, and the number one.
Opening Statements For: Eric Klinenberg (06:20)
Sociologist and author, Klinenberg surveys the audience and defines romance. Millions of people are using dating apps but the experiences are not romantic. Dating apps make it harder to be "swept away" by another person.
Opening Statements Against: Tom Jacques (06:32)
OkCupid Engineering Vice President, Jacques states that dating apps create romance. More people are using dating apps to get together and married couples who met online report higher marital satisfaction. Jacques cites statistics on dating app approval.
Opening Statements For: Manoush Zomorodi (07:02)
"Note to Self" Host and author, Zomorodi reads messages from her podcast listeners about online romance. Hear examples of negative experiences using dating apps. Dating apps destroy civility, conversation, and emotional intelligence.
Opening Statements Against: Helen Fisher (06:57)
Biological anthropologist and Match.com Chief Scientific Advisor, Fisher cites online dating approval statistics. Romantic love is a survival mechanism. Technology cannot change the brain structure of romance; dating sites are introducing sites.
Quantitative Argument (09:53)
Donvan summarizes opening statements. Proponents argue that the number of people using dating apps is not a good measure for the effect on romance; romance is subjective. Opponents counter that apps expand options and allow people to meet one another; one third of relationships start online.
Connections and Algorithms (07:40)
Fisher states that people are hyper-connected; online dating is increasing interracial marriages. Jacques explains how algorithms incorporate practical, behavioral methods. Panelists compare dating sites.
QA: Sex and Dating (03:20)
Zomorodi shares an example of thinking sex would lead to a relationship. Jacques argues that bad behavior by some does not mean a typical online experience is bad.
QA: Apps Are Introduction Tools (01:16)
Zomorodi considers what happens when we encounter people from "the real world" we do not like.
QA: Attraction and Romance (01:28)
Klinenberg states that many face-to-face meetings after connecting online result in "a miss." Fisher counters that when you know someone is in love with you, you like them more.
QA: Screening Out Con Artists (04:17)
Jacques explains how OkCupid addresses spammers and scammers in online dating. Klinenberg argues that discrimination occurs on dating sites. Fisher counters that ethnicity is low on the list of priority qualities.
QA: Quantity vs. Romance (02:29)
Jacques argues that dating apps provide options. Fisher states that nastiness happens everywhere, not just on dating apps.
QA: Superficial Judgements (01:55)
Zomorodi considers how quick judgments online differ from quick judgments in person. She shares a story about her husband.
QA: Defining Romance (03:08)
Fisher describes what happens when a person falls in love; romantic love is a constellation of personality traits. The definition of romance is changing faster than our understanding and expectations.
Concluding Statement For: Zomorodi (01:48)
The theory that tech is always good is being tested. You should not summon romance through an app.
Concluding Statement Against: Fisher (02:17)
Love is prevalent in all societies throughout the world. Apps are not changing romance; society is changing. Romantic love is adaptable.
Concluding Statement For: Klinenberg (02:26)
Procreation is not romance. Social life is rooted in the internet; one in five people are online all their waking hours. People need more time face-to-face.
Concluding Statement Against: Jacques (02:42)
Jacques shares his dating app experience. Everyone should have the opportunity to meet someone special.
Valentine's Day (04:14)
Donvan thanks participants. The audience and panelists consider whether the holiday is good for romance.
Audience Vote Results (02:01)
Donvan thanks supporters of Intelligence Squared. Pre-Debate - For: 39% - Against: 37% - Undecided: 24%
Post-Debate - For: 30% - Against: 66% - Undecided: 4%
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