Academic Pressure and Impostor Syndrome (05:24)
Dr. Ginsburg compares being a high achiever to a perfectionist. He elaborates that a perfectionist will only see flaws, believing themselves unsatisfactory, whereas a high achiever will notice the accolades.
Parents May or May not Be Part of the Problem, But they Definitely are Part of the Solution (01:35)
Dr. Ginsburg explains that the first step is to make sure parents understand there are no villains with perfectionism— no one is to blame. It is a convergence of issues that creates pressure to succeed.
What are the Forces That May Contribute to Perfectionism? (04:23)
Dr. Ginsburg describes the blame game that parents, schools, and colleges play, but adds that no one wants to harm kids. If society redefined the way it looks at heroes, children will aspire to more realistic goals.
College Admissions Process: What are the Forces That May Contribute to Perfectionism? (02:01)
Dr. Ginsburg explores the lies parents tell their children regarding the SAT's and explains how parents need to teach their children that all of life is hard work, so children need to enjoy themselves. If one gives up the present for the future, that person will be miserable.
Being Good at Everything: What are the Forces That May Contribute to Perfectionism? (05:06)
Dr. Ginsburg describes how kids are taught that they have to excel at everything (academics, athletics, creativity and volunteerism) in order to get into college, cautioning that it leads to perfectionism. He explains the term "do your best" means get an A to a teenager, and suggests changing that to "I expect you to put in your greatest effort.
Another Major Source of Perfectionism: the Desire to Spare Parents (03:25)
Dr. Ginsburg explains why this occurs in children whose parents are under severe stress. He provides language to tell the child in a reassuring way, not to withhold information to make parents feel better.
Using Praise Appropriately: The Key to Raising Children With a Growth Mindset (07:14)
Dr. Ginsburg explains how gratuitous praise leads kids to become perfectionists. He describes a study performed by Carol Dweck that showed that praising effort strengthens kids, while praising intelligence hinders.
Not All Perfectionists are "Perfect" (03:13)
Dr. Ginsburg explains why kids who pretend they do not care and give up can also be perfectionists. He describes how this can lead to self-medicating behavior.
Kids who Don't Care (01:27)
Dr. Ginsburg describes how every child is concerned about his or her future, but some pretend otherwise. He provides language that teachers and parents can implement to help reach this type of teen.
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